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Sex with Stefani: Keeping it sexy when you’re NOT in the mood

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Okay, so, you’re not in the mood. Work is stressing you out? The kids are driving you crazy?

I get it. No need to even explain.

And despite popular belief -- men don't always feel frisky, either. A recent study found that wives are actually 84% “usually” in the mood, compared to 64% of their husbands.

So, how do you turn down sex with your spouse without offending them?

Well, first thing’s first -- try to stay away from the old “I have a headache” excuse. Talk about a turn off!

Here’s a way to turn you both on. “Honey, how about we start with a shower first?” Or even a massage. That’s one way to rev things up AND cure that headache of yours.

But hey, if you’re just plain ole not in the mood or really have a headache and nothing will get you there – just be honest! But be kind! It goes back to that old saying: "Treat others the way you want to be treated," especially in the bedroom, because nothing’s worse than faking it.

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